Guide to Meeting and Dating Indonesian Girls [2024]

In this article, I compiled all the questions I ever received about meeting or dating Indonesian girls. I tried to answer them as concisely as possible so you won't lose time reading it.

What are the Best Dating Apps in Indonesia?

There are dozens of dating apps and sites to meet Indonesian girls, but only a few of them have a really large database of users. My favorite ones are the following:

1) Tinder, Bumble, OkCupid, Hinge

Tens of thousands of profiles are available on these apps. However, most girls will expect you to live in Indonesia so it might not be great if you're only passing by. They work best with guys who are young and good-looking.

Those apps are extremely popular with Indonesian guys as well so you'll probably need to pay something extra to promote your profile and to be seen by more girls.

2) IndonesianCupid

IndonesianCupid is perfect for men who are not living in Indonesia. It's a more traditional match-making website, with a focus on personality more than looks. Recommended to prepare for a trip. Free to register here.

3) Seeking.com

It is also a very popular dating website in Indonesia, but it is more controversial. It is for older men, in their 30s, 40s, or more, who are looking for a younger companion. That said, many Indonesian girls use it as a normal dating site so you can always have a look! They have an excellent ratio of 4 girls for 1 guy.

Read more: Best Dating Apps and Sites in Asia

What Are the Best Cities to Meet Indonesian Girls?

1) Jakarta and its suburbs (Bekasi, Depok, Tangerang)

The whole metropolitan area of Jakarta has over 35 million inhabitants in total. That's a dating pool of several million single women, many of whom are interested with foreigners.

Considering the sheer size of this megalopolis, it is essential to stay near the city center, for instance near the Sudirman Central Business District (SCBD). Remember that the city is plagued by massive traffic jams that make it both expensive and time-consuming to get around.

2) Surabaya

The second city in Indonesia with over 3 million people. It's a rather clean city, well-managed, and affordable. Very few foreigners live there. Surabaya girls are reputed to make excellent girlfriends or wives.

3) South Bali

The area between Kuta, Seminyak, Canggu, and Denpasar attracts Indonesian girls from all over the country. Many are looking to marry foreigners. They tend to be more open-minded, which is one of the reasons they left their hometown and moved to Bali.

4) Bandung

Only 3 hours away from Jakarta, Bandung is the capital of West Java and the third largest Indonesian city. It is home to a large student population. Sundanese girls are considered among the most beautiful in Indonesia.

What Are the Best Clubs to Meet Indonesian Girls?

Bali

Shishi is certainly the easiest option, but there are many prostitutes and semi-professional girls in the crowd. La Favela and Motel Mexicola are two other good options, with a slightly better crowd.

Jakarta

Basque, Loewy, Caspar, H Club, Zodiac are the most popular bars and nightclubs among foreigners who live in Jakarta. For this reason, many Indonesian girls will also visit them.

What Are Indonesian Girls Like?

While each girl is different, there are certain personality traits that you will find in most Indonesian girls. This is especially true for those who belong to the middle class and who were educated in Indonesia. That's because they were raised in a similar environment, with modest means, in rather conservative and religious families.

Here are some traits that are characteristic of Indonesian girls:

• Easy-going, cheerful

• Kind, generous

• Religious, superstitious

• Reserved, touchy

• Group and family-oriented

• Resilient: The average Indonesian girl probably had a much tougher life than the average Western girl. As a result, I believe they have a unique ability to overcome hardships.

• Pragmatic

Do Indonesian Girls Like Foreigners?

I received this question dozens of times, from people of various ethnicities: White, African, Indian, Arab, Turkish, Chinese, etc.

Generally speaking, yes, Indonesian girls tend to be be attracted to foreigners. Sadly, they will also categorize them based on their nationality or skin color. If you come from a rich country and if you have a fair skin, you will normally be more popular than someone from a poorer country with dark skin.

That said, skin color isn't everything. I've known many "darker-skin" foreigners in Jakarta who had a successful dating life. What they had in common? They were friendly, well-educated, well-dressed, polite, handsome, and with good jobs.

Overall, being a foreigner may help or hinder you, depending on your ethnicity/nationality. But in the end, you can still make a difference with your personality/personal situation.

What Are the Dos and Don'ts When Dating An Indonesian Girl?

If you are dating an Indonesian girl, here are a few recommendations:

• Be aware of local salaries

An average 30-year-old woman in Jakarta will earn between USD300-USD600 per month. Once she has paid for her transport, accommodation, food, there is generally very little left for entertainment.

For this reason, and unless she has a high-paying job or she comes from a rich family, I think it's fair to pay for her when going out for drinks or dinner.

If you don't want to pay for her, then choose an affordable restaurant with prices that match local salaries, or find a free activity.

• Don't make derogatory comments about Indonesia

Talk about Indonesia in a positive way. Don't spend your time complaining as it will make her feel embarrassed.

I remember a terrible date I had where I started talking about how corrupt the Indonesian police was, and then the girl started crying because her dad was a policeman.

• Don't criticize her religion

A very touchy topic that often ends up with a disagreement. You won't change her view, so what's the point?

• Don't tell her she is skinny, short or dark

While you may mean that as a compliment, Indonesians usually perceive those as criticism.

Should I Give Money to My Girlfriend?

In Indonesia, it is not uncommon for a boyfriend to pay for certain expenses (accommodation, phone, school fees, etc) or to give money to his girlfriend.

Should you do it?

I think that it is fine most of the time, but you have to be aware that there are "scammers".

Some girls, especially those you meet in infamous bars or clubs, will fake a relationship hoping to get as much money as they can from you. They will lie and manipulate you with a cold heart.

To spot a scammer, it is actually pretty easy, but many guys who are dating one are blinded by their feelings and ignore the red flags.

Typically, it is a girl who doesn't work and who is not supported by her family, and yet who spends and parties a lot. She wears expensive clothes, jewelry, perfume, and has the latest iPhone. She may have several boyfriends, so she will disappear for days or hours, then reappear suddenly. She will be secretive, lying, and will hide her screen when texting. She will often have a sick brother, mom, dad who is in the hospital and needs urgent money, etc.

In this case, you should really be thinking twice before sending any money.

How to Send Money to Your Indonesian GF?

If you live abroad, I suggest using Wise. It's probably one of the cheapest ways to send money to Indonesia.